When you blame others, you give up your power to change.
~ Dr. Robert Anthony
I love this quote. For a long time, I blamed other people for the circumstances of my life. I didn’t take enough responsibility in some areas and in other areas, I took too much responsibility. I have no problem beating myself up when I think that I have made a mistake. But those times when someone else “did me wrong,” I left the blame with them and didn’t evaluate my role in the situation. Today, I am so much more aware of the things that I have done and of the things that have been done to me. What I have done, I am working to forgive myself for and what has been done to me, I am working to let it go and forgive those who hurt me. It isn’t easy and it doesn’t always work the way that I want it to, but it is the right path to take.
I am in charge of my own life. I am responsible for whatever situation that I am in and how I react to each situation is totally under my control. Life doesn’t just happen to me. I make my life happen. Some people may say that I can’t control everything and that is true, but I can control my own actions. My father dies when I was twenty years old, two months before I married my first husband. I learned first hand how life can turn a corner in an instant. There is nothing quite as shocking as suddenly losing a loved one, but what you do after is what defines you. At the time, I had a child under a year and I didn’t have the luxury to let everything go and be a mess. Without knowing it at the time, my dad’s tutelage proved true and his words of always do what needed to be done got me through a time of fear and sadness. He taught me to focus on doing what was right rather than crying about what had happened. My dad believed in the ability to change one’s life and he passed that on to me.
I can change my life and so can you. Don’t ever let anyone take away your power. Be the power in your life and change it.
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